There is danger that we lose sight of what our friend is absolutely, while considering what she is to us alone.
Henry David Thoreau
Consider who a person is in their entirety: who she is to the public, to her friends, to her family, who she strives to be, who she struggles being, who she delights in being. Consider all of this instead of only considering who she is to you. She is not just your mother or wife or sister…her life is much more complicated and affects so many more lives.
My Dear and courageous friend,
With ruthless honesty: What do I value? Am I living my life in accordance with those values? What can I do? What must I accept? Practice, practice, practice. The rest, to fate with improvised optimism.
For my time so far, I can only offer: don’t withdraw, soul. You cannot be realised alone. Surround yourself with, immerse yourself in the goodness of good people, as I have done, and you will smiling live a life serene, as I do.
My glowing daybreak friend, from the nearest reachable greeting point of this shifting globe I lunge thee toward with unbearable stillness, and will, with all the wishing might of a child at Christmas Eve, for a quicker revolution and that cardinal glimpse of thy gladdening light jovial patience rewards.
And just like that it lifted from his soul and dispersed into nothing. Where heartache goes can no one tell, but in him was restored that tried and triumphant vitality he was so loved for. And that he was honest with his dismay, was his strength and warmth. Realising that he could have passed a lifetime in her stare but ultimately they were terribly needing to go different ways but too scared to go alone and not entirely knowing yet who alone actually was. Holding on, not each other.